2013 Goal Three: Put Yourself Out There
Going after what makes your heart beat the fastest strips you naked. Because you know just how much is at stake, your deepest desires and worries are exposed, and you face the harshest truths about who you really are, and what you can do. You have to look at your own eyes in the mirror, and be starkly honest with yourself. Unbutton your bravado, and throw it on the floor.
This 2013, my third and final goal is to put myself out there.
Offer up nothing but the genuine article, what makes you, you, and leave no room for show.
When you overthink the road ahead, agonize about being turned down, or get plagued by the possibility of being wiped out, you end up paralyzed. When we’re scared, sometimes we tend to keep our emotions and real selves gated and boarded up. If you’re not vulnerable, you won’t get hurt, right?
But how many missed chances have you had because you pictured the worst case scenarios, even before you made any effort for something incredible?
There will be countless times this year when I’ll hesitate from pressing on, seeking adventures, and expressing how I really feel. But I only have to think of how I kicked off 2013 with finally learning how to surf, and getting over my fear of failing in front of everybody to remember that your strength grows a thousandfold when you’re vulnerable.
Laying yourself bare is the jumping point of your hopes and dreams coming true.
Brave the waves,
2013 Goal Two: Stay Loyal to Your Pursuits
“Oh, we just threw her in the water when she was a baby. She somehow never got out of it,” my parents would say about me as I was growing up.
All great loves—even when they’re not with people—have the habit of falling on your lap. That’s the easy part. For you to be able to hang on to them calls for a pouring of your whole self. The feeling turns into a choice. It then begins to sculpt your dreams and the kind of life that you lead.
My love affair with the sea started when I was two, and remained as strong as ever now that I was 26. It is so vital to who I am that before I can make any life altering decisions, I ask myself: “Will I be able to visit the beach whenever I want to? Do I still have enough for future trips?”
I’ve always known that I wanted to be a storyteller, but loving the sea was what helped me find my voice. Each word and photo that I fished out from places that I visited had a certain ebb and flow. They weren’t mine; I just let them stream through me.
There were many times when being frustrated with writing, hitting a creative rut, or feeling that I wasn’t good enough made me want to be passionate about something else, something new. It was fun to flit from one diversion to another. Like flings though, they burned out quickly.
Sometimes I’d get so fixated on being satisfied with my output, I’d overlook keeping myself inspired enough to have the right goods in the first place. Loving the sea was my muse. I needed to nurture it.
Chances are, whatever gave you joy, and made you feel your best when you were a kid, still stoked your passion to this day. Whether you’re an artist, entrepreneur, designer, photographer, traveler—stay loyal to your pursuits. You’ve known long ago that you’ve found your great loves. They’ll always be there for you, ready for the taking.
Brave the waves,
2013 Goal One: Cherish Experiences, Not Things
Another glorious weekend. How did I ever become so lucky?
Seleena and I hit the beach during the start of our birthday month last December with our best travel buddy, Sannds.
The long ride to Batangas (remember how I absolutely get smashed during road trips?) knocked me out, as expected. So while they spent the early part of the afternoon lounging by the shore, I was cocooned in our hut, drowning in my drool. Do you realize how naps have become a rare indulgence nowadays? Mine was that magnificent guys; you should’ve seen (/heard) me snore like there was no tomorrow! Five stars, nap, five stars.
Hearing waves crashing outside your window can lull you to sleep, and it can also nudge you out of bed. We had this whole stretch all to ourselves. Sannds and Seleena were clearly having a great time in the water. I didn’t hesitate to join in.
Loved ones would tell me that I seemed to be on a vacation all the time, but leading this kind of lifestyle actually took lots of effort, discipline, and sacrifice.
Most of the people our age would blow off some steam by spending hard nights out every week, shopping, and burning cash on toys and gadgets. My friends would only do those things for special occasions (see previous post). Instead, we’d pool a portion of our savings together for weekends out of town like this one. And if we happened to be stuck in the city, we would find ways to hie off the beaten path, discover new nooks and crannies, or take comfort in our favorite spots.
Seeing this moon rise (this photo does not do it justice; it dipped so low, hovering over the sea!) made me feel that I was doing the right thing.
In 2013, I would continue to make and cherish experiences like this one, and prioritize them over things.
- Laiya, San Juan, Batangas
- Landline number: +63 759-2020
- Mobile number: +63 917 813 1301
Brave the waves,